You’re probably too nice, and you know it. You need to be more honest, and you know that too. What’s keeping you from it? Honesty isn’t that hard - err on the side of brutal honesty if you must. Analogy: better a bad Van Gogh than a good Van Gogh forgery.

That’s the problem. If you can be nice and honest at the same time, by all means do so. If you can’t, don’t. People will think less of you. It’s pretty much guaranteed that people will think less of you when you do something right. You’re not allowed to be a jerk, but you’re not allowed to be nice.

I’m sick of wimps and nice guys. Nice guys finish last. It’s true. Men weren’t made for Bridge and Canasta - they’re the stuff of legends and swords and building castles and designing skyscrapers and preaching fiery sermons.

If I see another nice guy or nice girl hiding behind their little wall of “niceness”, I’m going to gag. Come on, be honest. It’ll sting a little, but you need to stop the infection now - not when it’s too difficult to excise.

And, in an entirely different vein, please do remember to check out the Frapper Map and plunk yourself down on it somewhere.

dan (that was a very long href, wasn’t it?)

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